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Thank-you notes: you know you must

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The thank-you letter following a job interview could well turn out to have more impact on the writers future, but thank-you notes ought not to be written with the undertone of what benefits the writer most. Gratitude is the desired tone.


When writing to thank the person you hope will be your next boss, use an informal business style, looking online or in the library to check anything you doubt. There are templates online and in books. Check spelling and punctuation carefully. Spell Check could miss your using to when too is needed. Keep the letter short out of respect for the recipients time, but dont be so brief youve boiled it all down to one sentence. This is serious so dont bank on charm.


Thank-you notes for gifts also need to be kept to a short page. More than one paragraph, the note needs to identify clearly the gift (not the amount of money, though that seems rather grasping) or kindness demanding your grateful, written response.


The use to which youre putting the gift can often be included (John exclaimed when he saw the coffee grinder you gave us, How did they know we love coffee so much?) as well as mention of your ties, if any, to the giver. (I remember all those summers when the gang of us seemed to live in your backyard.) Its good to include a little reminder of the exact occasion for the gift as some people give many, many gifts, especially in the spring and summer graduation/wedding season.


Thank-you notes must also be written for gifts and kindnesses during the sad time of a death in the family. Note cards imprinted with the name of the deceased are helpful to the sender and the recipient, and sometimes are sent without additional comment. Not the best idea, but understanding must be extended to the bereaved. Friends can step in and assist in note writing. I think the biggest rule to keep in mind is that the bereaved must be allowed the freedom to behave as they wish as long as they wish.


I slipped the word birthday in the second paragraph because birthday gifts require thank-you notes. An e-mail note is just too easy a way to extend thanks, although Ive been guilty, and there is some defense of this. The effort put into the gift deserves effort from the recipient.


How much time between receiving the gift and sending the note? As little as possible, but the passing of time is not an excuse not to send. No one expects the bride to write 700 notes in the month left before the wedding, but everyone expects those notes to be written sometime. Well, maybe the bride doesnt, but her new mother-in-law does. (Dont I need a grim smiley face here?)


Now please remember, any friends of mine reading this and smarting from the pain of my not sending YOU a thank-you note, old people forget. The cloud of forgetting, coupled with all those new things we have to learn like how to dial the latest phone, just jumbles us all up into the fluffly, delightful, crabby old things we are. (So what kind of smiley face should go here?)


One of the important reasons for thank-you notes is the sender needs to know the gift arrived, and that includes local gifts delivered by merchants.


The most important reason is gratitude. Greedy pigs masquerading as people need not apply.


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BW hiemal wintry. The first day of June this year made a big try at this, but then the real June shoved in and took over. Always a rather warm lady.


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