The Black Sharpie

Angel Kane

A few weeks ago, Becky told me that one of her resolutions for the new year was that she would stop holding grudges. She intended to let bygones be bygones and instead offer good thoughts for people who wronged her.   I believe that’s what some people call “taking the high road.” Where that road leads to, I do not know, because it’s a road that is not programmed into my GPS. After she made her statement, I could tell she wanted me to reciprocate with a similar gesture of kindness. What followed was one of those uncomfortable silences after which I finally said, “Well, I’m not doing that. That’s no fun!” Unlike Becky, I quite enjoy holding a grudge and the payback that often comes after. I have no reason to take the high road because I like the scenic road that I travel.  My husband likes to joke that I have a little black book. Cross me and your name goes in the book. Depending on the grievance, it’s either written in pencil, pen or black Sharpie.  My system is quite simple… 1)      Pencil is reserved for what others might consider insignificant slights. But to me, no slight is insignificant. By writing it in pencil, however, I generously allow the “slightor” the chance for redemption.   2)      Pen is one level up. Most of my grievances are written up in this manner. Pen is much harder to get out but if you try really hard, you can usually at least lighten the ink. 3)      Black Sharpie is reserved for only a chosen few. And we all know…nothing gets out Sharpie.    The little black book is only half the fun.  My friend Lisa coined a phrase  - “full circle.” Lisa’s college roommate was a dreadful girl. The last straw came the senior year of college when this dreadful girl began dating the college football star and summarily advised Lisa that she would never be so lucky. She married the star at a big lavish wedding. She didn’t invite Lisa.   A few years later, Lisa called me up.  “Hey, do remember dreadful girl? She got a divorce.”  “Really, what happened?” I asked.   “Turns out the football star was gay – big time!”   Thus the term “full circle” was coined.  I am a firm believer that what goes around comes around. It may not be right then and there but it always happens and when it does, I like to sit back and watch. Sometimes, I even pop popcorn for the show.  So, while Becky tried to school me on the “high road,” I similarly tried to school her on the virtues of having a “book of grievances.”  Finally, exasperated Becky said, “you know you are insane, right?” Thereafter, I pulled out my Sharpie.  Angel Kane can be reached at You can read all of Angel and Becky’s Telling Tales on-line now at under the Style section.  Make sure to pick up the last few issues of the Jan/Feb Wilson Living Magazine around town. The March/April issues will be out soon!     


Telling Tales 

Angel Kane and Becky Andrews live in Wilson County. This is their story (or tale) about their life, families and times that they share. Besides their weekly column Telling Tales Angel and Becky Co Founded Wilson Living Magazine. The idea of developing a magazine for Wilson County first came to Becky and Angel one afternoon while they sat on her back porch watching their children play in the backyard. 

They were discussing the outpouring of emails, calls and responses to their column “Telling Tales” and wanted to find a way to capture that community spirit. People were stopping them wherever they went to share their own “tales.” They suddenly realized everyone has a story to tell and many of these stories were amazing. And in that moment, Wilson Living Magazine came to life. Be sure to check out Wilson Living Magazine at

You can read Angel and Becky's weekly column on-line at under the Style section.